The Importance Of Putting Yourself First

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Am I selfish? I like to think not. As a friend, daughter, wife, mother (to two small young children), colleague and neighbour, I like to think I am kind, loving, thoughtful and always rooting for the ones I love. And yet despite this, I’m happy to my stick my hand up and say I put myself first. It’s not something many women will admit to. In fact, I am struggling to think of anyone who would own up to that. The idea of writing this piece actually came to me during a 2 hour cupping session in the middle of a working day. Did I feel guilty? Hell no. I was alleviating back pain and had got up extra early that morning in order to get my work done on time. Read More…

Happy In Our Own Skin?

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Or maybe the question is, can you think of a time when you didn’t feel uncomfortable with your body? The thing is, most of us are on a negative feedback loop when it comes to our bodies – which generally translates as a feeling not being happy in our own skin. The bigger picture of this is that we spend a lot of our time worrying about what we do/don’t eat, how much we do/don’t exercise. In short, we have our heads full of body neuroses.

I’d already decided to write this piece when I read an article in the Guardian Weekend supplement written by young feminist writer, Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett (co-founder of the website vagendamagazine.com a rant-y, free thinking, sometimes funny backlash against the increasingly purile gossip nature of glossy weeklies). In her Guardian piece, Cosslett writes about battles with her own body, only too aware of the irony: feminist writer with body issues.

She goes on to mention the phenomenon of ‘almost anorexia’ or undiagnosed eating disorders which affect the majority of women in some form of unhealthy body image or anxieties with food. Also, orthorexia nervosa, the so-called obsession with eating healthily, not to mention ‘fitspiration’ the in-your-face social media fuelled craze for achieving the perfect body through exercise. That there’s a generation of women who don’t want to be seen to be dieting as such (in fact, they’re anti-diet) but are using the smokescreen of green smoothie, flaxseed, juice detoxes instead. It all adds up to the same thing. The longing to be thin, have the perfect body ends up making us all too hard on ourselves. Read More…