What Doesn’t Kill You

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Is it just me, or does the expression, ‘When one door closes, a window opens’ make you cringe, too?  I get that it’s a neat phrase designed to provide comfort – a slightly more creative alternative to ‘don’t worry, it’ll be OK’  – but the fact that it’s trite and meaningless is surely indisputable.

It suggests that, when a ‘door’ closes in your life, all you have to do is sit and wait while ‘windows’ fly open all around you.  For most of us, that simply doesn’t happen.  And when it doesn’t, you start getting paranoid, asking yourself: is it me?  And that can ultimately be more damaging than never having been offered the platitude in the first place.

If I’d been given £1 for every time someone said those well-intentioned words to me a couple of years ago when an important door in my life slammed shut, I’d be considerably richer than I am now. Read More…

A Guide To Summer Self-Care

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When we think about self-care we usually associate it with colder weather. Conjuring up visions of comforting rituals, journalling under a blanket with a warming cup of herbal tea and soaking in a hot bath filled with detoxifying salts. So understandably, self-care is usually the last thing on our minds once summertime comes around – bringing with it a schedule filled with rooftop cocktails, spontaneous barbecues and weekly weddings. Read More…

How To Deal With Emotional Stress

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Amongst all the self-help books clamouring to make you happier and banish negativity, Chinese wisdom is a lone voice of dissent. Because if you listen, it will tell you that it’s not natural, healthy, or even desirable to always be happy. It’s not only ok to be sad, or angry – it’s actually healthy. Chinese wisdom gently advises that all emotions are healthy for us and simply part of the tapestry of life. It’s too much emotion – of any kind – that is bad for our health. 

The Chinese way considers wild emotion to be addictive, distracting and bad for our health. Huge value is placed on peace, quiet joy, mindfulness and contentment. Read More…