Emotional Intelligence

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Who doesn’t love a list? For most of us, it’s the proverbial endless to-do-one, but recently I’ve been compiling a mental checklist of things I wish they’d taught us at school. How many times in the past twenty years have you used your simultaneous equations? My point exactly. Instead, how handy would it have been to learn – and in no particular order – how not to get gazumped, the truth about childbirth, how to avoid the divorce courts when you have two under-fives or the best way to navigate the work place which, let’s face it, is where most of us will be spending a very long time.

Oh how I wished I had known a bit more about emotional intelligence when I started out twenty something years ago. There should be compulsory A-levels on this topic. It’s the single most useful skill that will help you thrive in life and the work place. And way more important than any career service at school or university will impress on you. It’s that ability to work out how you fit into a situation and be sensitive as to how you are perceived. Certainly it will help you manipulate a meeting to your best advantage if you are able to ‘read’ the emotions of others and learn to say the right thing to obtain the right result. Your double first from Oxbridge will resonate far less if you are arrogant and unable to see beyond the end of your nose. Read More…

The (Unexpected) Benefits Of Meditation

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Many of us are instinctively drawn to meditation these days – it’s the much touted anti-dote to modern day life. However, not so many of us are actually able to do it every day, and stick to it. In my case, it remained as just another thing on my to do list for ages simply because in the back of my mind, it seemed like a waste of time to just ‘sit still’ for ten minutes each morning. The truth is even if we do get started it is hard to keep it up – some of the most disciplined yogis do fall off the wagon.

For me, it was a gradual start. I began to realise I enjoyed the breathing exercises and Shavasana (relaxation) part of yoga classes, and I went on to explore these and other meditative practices at home. I instantly reaped big bonuses, such as sleeping better, having more energy and this gave me the impetus to practice regularly. Little and often. Then I began to hit a real gold mine of deeper benefits which I’ve written about here. There are many more. And the experience will be different for each one of us, but I hope these less talked about perks will inspire you to begin or kick start your meditation practice. Read More…